NEW RULES OF ROMANCE

There is this Japanese mindset called mushin. It suggests that we should not be too overconfident because we may lose in track. On one hand, we don’t need to be extremely anxious because we may get “freeze.” That is, the thing that anybody should cultivate within his best self is knowing how to weigh things down right. To feel the perks of equilibrium, we really have to keep ourselves in the middle—focused, relaxed, attached but decisive. Now, this mushin mindset is quite a good thing to ponder off with regards to relationship and romance.

To this day, new rules of romance come in various forms and sizes. It simply means that you can get into romantic relationship in any way you want it to be. For instance, you can use your cellphone to deliver or to receive pickup lines. Even in social media, it’s going to be possible. Digital romance is made easier today with the help of social platforms like Facebook and other social networking sites.

An honest-to-goodness guy can say such three magic words “I love You” through chats. A go-to-guy can ask someone for a date through e-mail. A shy-type can express his “hidden agenda” through his status and walls telling implicitly the “other meanings.”

There’s Facebook, Twitter, and other social networking sites if you get to know better your subject. You can visit his’her wall and look over his’her past and present tracks. With the present momentum of social media, it would really be an opportunity for such “chickboy” or “playboy” to have alternative romantic partners online.

Flirtatious comments and status could spark relationships and mutual understanding. This MU status would flourish through private messaging (PM). On the other hand, the downside of having this sort of affairs online is the threat of digital trail. An interested tech savvy can follow your digital footprints. Digital footprints could mean invasion of privacy and tracks.

In this way, technology has really become an effective medium in showing off your interests to someone or something. Given the alchemy of love and lust, you can really do well enough in the art of attraction with an aid of technology.

Gone are the days when boys and girls do exchange love letters to each other. It is a gesture of showing how romantic one party may be. Chats and SMS have replaced those scented love letters. Some boys get chicks without so much effort. Unlike before, he used to do the serenade in order to win the girl’s heart and her parents’ nods. Today, with just a flirtatious text message, a mutual relationship would soon flourish.

At present, it’s wise for the girl to think twice before deciding to give her heart to someone else. It doesn’t mean that she has to play “hard-to-get.” It’s just that she has to ask for the gift of discernment—minding the society’s acceptance of her actions and decisions. A girl must never rush things out. For the guys, these new trends in love affairs are quite critical. You need to be very cautious, so you end up keeping on track.

Despite such new rules of romance, what’s important is that you don’t postpone love. That is, let the love begin each day. Let it flourish in the hands of time.